Saturday, February 1, 2014

Poisonous People

I have never believed in the motivational mumbo jumbo and in stuff like be positive and you will get positive. Nope.
But I do believe in evil. And darkness. And bad, poisonous people. Do whatever you can, to stay away from them!
I know they are not always easily to spot. Sometimes they steal 4-5 years of your life before you could do anything in this regard.

Listen to your instincts. Don't push at the back of your thoughts the unpleasant tingling that warns you from time to time.

Do they seem too good to be true? It won't last. The first mistake they will make will be a big one. And you will tend to say..."Everybody makes mistakes. It won't happen again". It will. And they will force you to find excuses for the mud they spit on you.

If two of your other friends raised at least one time their eyebrows about a situation you and the bad people were in, you have a "winner".

Check your health and your energy levels regularly . If you register signs of deterioration in any of these, you definitely have evil people in your life. Who are very close to your heart and to your soul. The more you give to them, the more they take from you, without giving back anything to you. Except small portions of poison.

Will you lift their spirits up, but they never do this in return for you? Bingo.

Do you feel sad, without an apparent reason? It's your defense mechanism yelling at you to look around.

Do you feel like crying, again without a proper reason? It's your brain struggling to get into the "fight and run" mode, so you can save yourself from the irreparable damage.

Listen to their laugh. If it always stops at the throat level, an alarm flag should slap your face. This is maybe the most subtle sign that you have in your life a walking killing machine that eats you up.

Ultimately, take a step back once in a while and be honest to yourself. Do those people you love and care for... really deserve your love and care? Analyze the facts. Listen to your guts.

Do not ignore the tiniest, smallest doubt. It might save you from years of sorrow and illness.



Shakti_Shetty said...


This is quite serious stuff here, Moni.

ThePoet Geo said...

Toward a mathematics of love:
To develop a set of formulae for avoiding the wrong, or finding the right friend or partner; you will better succeed if your mathematics is accurate and your logic consistent relative to all aspects of relationship. It is also best not to make assumptions with regard to axiomatic rules. Life is an open system and if one is to overlay such a dynamic system with a web of tenets then you must ensure you have sound proof for all your hypotheses. Rigorous dictum may become variable relative to changing conditions or perspectives.
A person may have or lack an attribute, yet to infer suppositions based upon that would be to rule out the possibility of change. People can change when they see the need. All humans, even men, can change remarkably with regard to love. The change is relative to the prize on offer.
A timid, cowardly man can transform himself into a hero and take on the leader of the pack. To gain his heart’s desire, even a meek man would face the aggressive, experienced and violent brute. Like a salmon he would try to swim up waterfalls. Sail the impossible ocean through rough seas and violent storms. He would foolishly seek to surmount the danger of a whole army; launch a thousand ships and if he had no ship, he would beg, borrow, build or steal one. He would put his life on pause and in an instant make the decision to travel thousands of miles. He would climb a mountain and not see the impossibility of its steep slopes. A man, almost any man can change profoundly when the need arises in his heart. He will challenge gods themselves and seek to win. Man will build wings and aim to fly if he desires it strong enough. To sit and procrastinate while waiting for such a man is to miss the point. Circumstances, challenges and the prize on offer create men who can change. If you want this personally, then you must involve yourself with those circumstances, inspire and cheer him on through the challenges. You must also be the worthy prize on offer. If you want a man who would challenge the gods themselves then you must be a goddess. If you are not prepared to be the desirable goddess prize then don’t expect a god to come knocking.
Genetically and in friendship, men are the weaker sex. Many flaws counterbalance their strengths. Yet many men do try to become superhuman, this trait is evident in many boys. Impossibility is just an obstacle to be overcome. Man is not god: so of course most men will fall short of their ambitions. If you want to produce and sustain a favorable change in Man, then work on his ambitions.
If ambition is impossible to fire up in him no matter what you do, or how good you are, then forget it – that which you are confronting is not yet, or not capable of being, Man; or you are unable to be his muse.

A friend or partner may not succeed but their ambitious attempt to do so is proof of love. The telemetry of love does not just include attributes possessed and success achieved; to conclude thus, is not to understand love. It is to set yourself up to fail in the pursuit love because you will know much dissatisfaction.

Deduction = if you can’t be his muse then he’s not your man.

Thais said...

@shakti Kind of...serious. :D :D

Thais said...

@ThePoetGeo While your long response satisfies my ego *wow...look what my post triggered...a huge answer...a response of impact* the assumptions with women that NEED to be goddesses so that the men want them and the poor men who are the weak gender in love (please!) kind of turned me off. :) Nevertheless, excellent digression. Also... if HE cant be an inspiration, if HE is unable to show some balls and if HE doesnt have a decent straight spine, then definitely HE is not my man. HE can try to become a parasite somewhere else.
Thanks a lot for stopping by and letting me know of your view.